Tag: self care

punkpuns:

I broke my toe at a show in May because I wasn’t wearing good enough shoes to be in the pit that I didn’t exactly plan on being in. Learn from my mistakes, protect your toes.

But seriously. Please stay safe at shows and drink plenty of water and don’t get awful sunburns and PLEASE wear your earplugs. You can get super cheap, super comfortable reusable ones that still allow for great sound fidelity in the high end and then you won’t have to worry about developing a permanent ringing/hissing soundtrack later in life.

Also, if you’re gonna take drugs, know what you’re taking and let a friend who’s staying drug-free know what you’ve taken. If pill testing is available, USE IT. Also, if you or a friend needs a medic TELL THEM WHAT YOU/THEY TOOK. They’re not police, and they’re not there to judge, they just want to give you the best care possible without worrying about funky drug interactions. Telling friends and medics what you took can 100% save your life! Love, a former volunteer drug-rover from Sydney Mardi Gras Afterparty.

badrockpuns:

higgsboshark:

The thing about knitting is it’s much harder to fear the existential futility of all your actions while you’re doing it.

Like ok, sure, sometimes it’s hard to believe you’ve made any positive impact on the world. But it’s pretty easy to believe you’ve made a sock. Look at it. There it is. Put it on, now your foot’s warm.

Checkmate, nihilism.

#yelling into the void#also knitting into the void#now at least the void has socks

aceofblueheart:

mishafletcher:

mizufae:

clotpoleofthelord:

counterpunches:

#i am begging you

RENO MY RENO! Canadians fix people’s home improvement mistakes and are super nice about it but FIRM with man who don’t finish projects!

so far some shows that have worked for me:

Lord & Ladles – scottish chefs cook historical feasts in historical mansions! you meet wacky old money people and learn about strange things their ancestors got up to! you get to watch as world-renowned chefs fail at catching a fish! someone makes a hedgehog out of marzipan! people in the olden times ate some crazy shit! every episode ends with the chefs cheersing each other while lying on vintage furniture!

Big Dreams, Small Spaces – cute british people have cute yards that cute gardening man helps to make into much cuter yards. one lady wants to grow vegetables to share with her neighborhood. one lady wants to sculpt a huge mud head covered in moss coming out of the ground. one dad wants a garden for his down’s syndrome kid so he makes a sensory garden with a thousand different smells and textures. one couple wants to grow flowers for their wedding. it’s all wonderful.

Nailed It! – a bunch of people probably got high and decided to throw money at this show idea. everybody tries their best and everybody comes away either having learned something helpful, having had a rollicking good time, or having won a bunch of money. all the judges are good sports and nobody is made to feel bad for doing bad. also there’s some fucking crazy shit they get up to with modeling chocolate i tell you what.

Skin Wars – actually a lot about artists and their craft??? not really at all about sexy ladies being naked??? very cool stuff done by people with atrocious fashion sense and a complete willingness to buy into the moment. a few bad apples but mostly the reality-show-ness is pretty toned down and people are there to make cool art.

A Cook Abroad – chefs go to different parts of the world and learn about food there. A dumb white guy makes bread with adorable egyptian ladies! A british man gets exhausted by the length of roads in argentina and is only recharged by steak! An awesome woman makes cheese in france!

Love Your Garden – british man does garden makeovers for wholesome deserving families with special needs. Maybe a little bit on the weepy side of things but his assistants are all great and have fantastic hairstyles and people in wheelchairs deserve flowers!

Puffin Rock – this show is supposedly for babies but it is SO PRETTY and SO CHARMING and it’s about animals and nature and stuff and doesn’t really completely shy away from that?? like, one of the characters is a little rodent and the seagulls are the bad guys and he’s actually afraid of getting eaten?? anyway baby birds sing songs with baby bunnies and play splishsplash with baby seals and snuggle with baby animals of all sorts in a beautiful hand painted island.

Animal Airport – hey did you know some crazy shit goes down in Heathrow?? Did you know that there isn’t rabies in the UK? Everyone’s doggies and kitties have a long trip but they all get home in the end and also there are turtles and cheetahs and bugs and fish and everything!!!

this list is so relevant to my interests it hurts.

i’d also suggest the bbc historical farms series–it’s not on netflix, but it *is* mostly on youtube. the metafilter guide that originally introduced me to it is here. there are a bunch of different series of it, now, and each one is a group of archaeologists and historians living on a period location–victorian farm, they live in a farmhouse from the era, and they farm and raise animals and etc wearing period clothing, using period tools and sources as guides. and it sounds like it could be cringey, but they’re all experts in their fields and actually really invested in trying to do things well, so instead it’s a bunch of shows about teamwork and being friends (most of the core team stays the same) and learning things, and it’s delightful.

similarly, the sweet makers and victorian bakers have modern confectioners and bakers recreating period foods wearing appropriate clothing and using cookbooks from the era to guide them. (warning that one of the sweet makers episodes deals heavily with the history of sugar, and the slavery and horrific abuses associated with the same.)

a good list but i just want to point out that Lords and Ladles is Irish. the chefs are Irish. it’s filmed in Irish manor houses. no Scottish in sight.

Also: The Supersizers Go/Eat [historical period]: Sue Perkins and history/food person explore different time periods and cultures. can be found on youtube.

The Great British Sewing Bee – like bake off, but with clothing!

The Great Pottery Throw Down – like bake off, but with pottery!

The Great Australian Bake Off – the comedians are annoying, but the judges are great

Celebrity British Bake Off (Sports Relief and Comic Relief) – hysterically funny because half the contestants are comedians and half have never baked a thing in their life, so just turning the oven on is A SUCCESS

Great British Bake Off : An Extra Slice – Aftershow for the main series with Jo Brand, good stuff

Junior Bake Off – bake off, but with kids! Also, better, because at least the most recent series, they not only had lots of racial diversity and gender parity but a few kids with disabilities!

The Chefs’ Line – awesome Australian show that focusses on the staff of a restaurant cooking against a handful of amateurs, a different cuisine every week. Season two has just started! Also, the judges are amazing and 100% not white, which is super rare on tv.

Family Food Fight – another Australian show with families of different food cultures cooking against each other to find the winner. Season one of this was AWESOME and so warm and wholesome. We’re getting another season soon!

TIME TEAM – Watch British people get excited digging holes, finding tiny bits of pot and floor tile, and different colours of dirt. In the rain!

Britain’s Best Cook – Mary Berry’s new show that is sort of like bake off, but with all kinds of home cooking, not just baking!

geekinglikeaboss:

birdblinder:

me, looking at the current state of the world, crying:I wish none of this had happened…

Gandalf, materialising in my conscience, smiling kindly: So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. There are other forces at work in this world, besides the will of evil.

This is wonderfully helpful.

adventures-in-poor-planning:

madtomedgar:

thinking about the statement that all maladaptive coping mechanisms were helpful and, well, adaptive, at some point, and that they become maladaptive when the circumstance changes or when their detriments outweigh their benefits, and how the framework of “this is no longer helpful to you” is probably better than “this is a bad habit/this is bad for you.” How much better “you don’t have to live like that anymore” feels than “that’s a bad habit you picked up when you were in a bad place.” “It’s ok, you can look now,” vs “you’ve been tainted/infected/sullied by a previous bad circumstance.”

Thought about this today while reading about hermit crabs. 

Hermit crabs start out their lives tiny and defenceless, and they choose a small shell to protect them. When they grow too big for the shell, big enough that it stops them from growing more, they abandon it and move on to a shell better for them at that size.

Does that mean the old shell was a terrible mistake? No, because it protected them back when they were smaller and more defenceless! But now it’s limiting their growth, and it’s time for them to find a better shell.

Humans, like hermit crabs, pick up shells when we need protection. Sometimes, we need to ditch those shells to keep growing! If we look at them as shells instead of Irredeemable Moral Failures, it’s a hell of a lot easier to let them go.