this is so great. fuck toxic masculinity. we need something like this stateside (x) | follow @this-is-life-actually
i love this so much
for all my quiet & reserved men going thru it i love u all
This!!!! Spread this message around. Crying is good!!!!
Crying is not female thing, crying is a human thing, and an animal thing, and, I dunno, maybe an alien thing too. Have a cry if you feel like it, dudes!
Bucky’s not the guy who cries during fights. He’s not. He’s better than that, and really, their fights are never that bad. They shout, they throw up their hands, one of them slams a door, and usually that’s enough. They’ve never argued about the big things. They talk them out.
But sometimes, Steve says something, and— Bucky knows he’s turned out okay. He knows he’s pulled himself together, knows he’s not the fucked up kid with the bad grades and worse attitude who rolled into town all those years ago. He’s put himself back together, become the man he wanted to be, and he’s got Steve and Dot and all their friends because he worked hard to get here. But sometimes, when they’re arguing, Steve’ll send him this look and use the word disappointed instead of pissed off, and it’s like a Pavlovian response.
Because, yeah, Steve’s disappointed at Bucky for forgetting about those plans they made three months back and double-booking, or for forgetting Dot at the grocery store (for ten minutes, Steve, come on), or for bitching about his frustration about something to Natasha and Clint when Steve was in earshot and also, when Bucky hadn’t said anything to Steve. He knows it’s situational.
But he feels like the disappointment’s broader, and deeper, and that he might lose everything. Just in that second. Just when Steve pulls out the d-word.
He feels like a fucked-up fifteen-year-old, when Steve’s disappointed in him.
knitting in the dark 