autasticanna:

myautisticpov:

The framing around autistic people not wanting to do things because their autism makes the things unpleasant is really fucking weird.

I don’t like going to nightclubs.

The main reason I don’t like it is that the noise causes me to meltdown.

And allistics see this as this huge, evil thing.

“Omg, poor Lucy, how will she ever live?”

And I’m just like,

Bitch, if you don’t like spicy food, because you were born with a low tolerance for spicy food, no one’s crying their fucking eyes out like

“Poor baby, how ever will she cope with only being able to order mild curries?”

People don’t like shit.

People don’t have to like shit.

And this weird thing where if the reason I don’t like something can be seen to be to do with my autism, I MUST BE FORCED TO ENJOY IT is fucking annoying and needs to stop.

Yeah but this only applies if you’re disabled.

If you’re allistic and you’re like “eh, don’t like clubs” nobody gives a shit but if you’re autistic and you’re like “eh, don’t like clubs” suddenly everybody thinks you’d be better off having never been born

As an autistic person, I agree with this in general, but there’s also this whole culture of shaming/bullying introverted (not necessarily autistic) people into doing things for their own good. I wasn’t DXed with autism until I was an adult, and I have a bunch of introverted friends who’ve experienced this too. I know one who had to leave her job because management kept making her do presentations ‘for her own good’ despite her only being hired to do data entry. Her stress got so severe she was having panic attacks in the car park. There’s this idea that being an extrovert is the right way to be and that all introverts should strive to be extroverts despite it being really toxic for us to try to be ‘on’ and ‘out there’ all the time against our nature. So, yes, it happens a huge amount to us autistics, but our introverted friends cop it too.